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Miracle Diaries – What I learnt from Gabrielle Bernstein and her May Cause Miracles Course

When you set on a path of listening to your heart and manifesting your true life purpose, the Universe reciprocates. I hit my low last year and it was when I realized what my true life purpose was  – “It is making people realize their full potential and the light that is inside them”. And when I started working towards it, the Universe put this course in my path – Holistic Life Coaching Course by University of Wellness. I am just nine weeks into this course and I can see my world changing already.

One of the courses included in the curriculum was May Cause Miracles by Gabrielle Bernstein. It is a 40 day guidebook which offers compelling message that anything is indeed possible with a few simple shifts  in our life. The book guides you with a morning and evening exercise each day for 40 days. And each week is dedicated to one important aspect of our life – body, relationships, finance etc.

These 40 days were raw, true and so vulnerable for me. I unfolded so many inner demons, faced deep seated fears and at the end was amazed at the humongous work I did on myself.

I wanted to share my journey so that at least one of you is inspired out there and says yes to miracles by working on yourself first –

Week One  – Witness Your Fear

Gabby Bernstein
Week one was sitting down and writing all the fears you have in life. I realized when you sit down to journal, deeper fears which you don’t want to acknowledge come up to the surface. The fears which you didn’t want to face, the fears which you locked up down there afraid to let them out. Week one made me realize how my fear governs my thoughts and how I feel when I am under it’s influence. The fear of failure came up for me. A simple affirmation – “I am willing to see love instead of this” brought back the calmness.

Week Two – Self Love

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Week two made me realize the importance of self love. I am a perfectionist and I beat up myself for every small imperfection. I realized I have been my own self critic, demeaning my self worth. It also made me realize that I am not taking good care of my body.  I doubted my capabilities and was harsh on myself when I failed at something. “I am willing to let go of my self-doubt. I surrender to self love” became my mantra for an entire week. I added one thing in my routine which was all about self love and it helped tremendously. Sometimes we are too brutal on ourselves and week two taught me to be gentle and let go.

Week Three – The Body

Gabrielle Bernstein
This was a BIGGIE for me and I wrote a separate post on how I let go of my padded bras and finally made peace with my body the way it is! You can read it here –

Why I got rid of my Padded Bras, after Clinging to them for 15 plus years

It took courage and a lot of self love to finally be free of the body image I had made for myself.

Week Four – Romance and Relationships

Forgiveness
Week four was revolutionary for me. Though when it came to romance, I was well sorted and was already doing what Gabby mentioned in the book. It was the ‘other’ relationships which needed healing. It was the judgement I threw on others and the way I compared myself with them. It was forgiving those who have behaved so inhumanly with my grandparents and which I never thought I will be able to do EVER in this life at least. It was about attacking others and passing condescending remarks. It was about not making or feeling myself to be special compared to others and making the foundation of oneness.

I love my Papa to the moon and back. But during this course I realized that I have had a grudge against him for taking some wrong financial decisions while we were growing up. Till date I never realized I had this inside me. This realization was something which turned my world upside down. I let go of this feeling and forgave myself for having this grudge and Papa. I set myself free.

Week Five – Financial Abundance

Lack mentality

Well, my sister and me grew up in financial abundance earlier and then things changed. While growing up I had this limiting belief about money which made me curtail all my wishes. I did not take the art class in school because I thought it will burden my dad financially. I went to the dentist the first time when I started earning. I carried my lack mentality with me till now. I sabotaged all the things meant for self improvement saying that I do not have enough money for this. The moment I realized about my lack mentality, my entire life came in front of my eyes – the courses I didn’t take, the training sessions I said no to and the learning opportunities I denied because I thought I could not ‘afford’ it. I removed my blocks around money the very same moment.

Week Six – Miracle Worker Mindset

Miracle Worker

The last week was maintaining all the learnings and patting your back on the immense work I did during these 40 days! Ya, cheers to me 🙂
It also laid the foundation of continuing with this miracle mindset and let miracles happen!

It was intense and I am so self aware now of my thoughts. Whenever a fear based thought crosses my mind, I say to myself – “Love did not create this”. And see the shift within me.

I am ready to welcome the miracles in my life right now. Would you like to join me too?

Lessons I am learning from the Spring

Spring is here and this is the first time my husband and me are experiencing it in the US! Before this we were in Florida for 3 years and what we experienced all year long was just SUMMER 😛

I am excited and awestruck looking at the spring blossoms in Chicago, soaking up in the color and vitality and gazing at beautiful flowers all around. It is indeed a time of renewal and letting go of things that don’t serve us anymore. It reminds me of a rebirth or reincarnation. It is my first spring and I cannot be more elated about it!

Spring is teaching me a lot of life lessons too and here is what I am learning  –

#Lesson 1 – Humility

The other day I saw a bunch of yellow flowers in full bloom and I was so sure they were daffodils. I have never seen daffodils in real life before but those bright yellow flowers somehow fit the bill of William Wordsworth’s description of daffodils in his poem ‘Daffodils’. Those daffodils flowers were bent a little down. Beautiful as they were and yet they didn’t show the pride. I thought they were giving a lesson in humility and trying to tell me, “I know I am bright, beautiful and desirable. But my true beauty lies in my humility and hence I don’t have a haughty stance. I keep my head low with humility and sparkle my inner beauty”. 

Always be humble and don’t let pride take over!

#Lesson 2 – The tough season prepares us for our best

For the past 5 months, the season here was severe. No tree had one leaf left on it. Every tree was stark naked. The snow and the harsh winds blew and yet the trees stood strong. And now slowly, buds are blooming and leaflets are rising up. Nature never fails to surprise me! For 5 months the trees did not have leaves to prepare the food, it stored all its nutrition and survived this extreme weather only to transform beautifully the way it is today.

Those tiny leaflets on each tree give me hope that my tough times are preparing me for the best times in my life!

#Lesson 3 – You can always start over

Nature started all over again during spring! New leaves, new flowers, new energy – in short a new life. We can start over too. Why not let the spring guide our life and let go of the things no longer serving us and start over? How about starting over life by doing what you love? What about that toxic relationship which needs to be shed to let our spring bloom? Or that habit of ours which isn’t allowing us to grow into our full bloom?

Start over and welcome the spring in your life!

#Lesson 4 – It is time to sing just like the birds are doing!

Every morning I wake up to the chirping and humming of birds. Tiny birds with such gorgeous colors fluttering from tree to tree and sometimes visiting my patio. I have seen huge white and grey birds in Florida, but never such tiny timid vibrant birds. It just melts my heart. These birds seem to be singing their heart out not bothering about anyone! The lesson I learnt from them is sing the song of your soul! What is that your soul is yearning to do? Get up and do that! Sing the song your soul wants you to sing!

Sing the song of your soul and sing it as if no one is listening.

#Lesson 5 – Be your own beautiful self

Spring time is the time when wildflowers bloom too! It is a tiny flower which might look a little dull in front of the exotic cherry blossom and other colorful flowers. But the wildflower doesn’t care! It continues to be it’s own beautiful self! It does not compare itself with others and is happy in its own world!

Be your own beautiful self, don’t let the world tell you otherwise!

My first spring and I am thrilled to learn so many life lessons! My every gaze looking at the nature fills my heart and soul with so much of gratitude, love and renewed energy!

What spring lessons are you learning this season?

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Why Hatred still prevails in our Society?

I recently did a gig for Stylewhack  in which I asked random people on streets “What does ‘love’ mean to you?”. In the entire exercise I realised, just the word ‘love’ stirs so many emotions in an individual. It was not just the typical love between a man and a woman, but also between a parent and a child, a pet father and his pet and sometimes even just friends!

The people whom I met had some wonderful stories to tell. There was this one couple, who spoke so dearly about each other and were holding hands ALL THE TIME! There was this young man who wanted to get back home soon as it was the feeding time for his dog. An elderly woman started talking rapidly in Spanish and it was amazing to see her granddaughter translate all of that to me in English. A woman spoke affectionately about her girlfriend and how they were excited about starting the adoption process. A man reminisced about his first love in high school and how life would have been different if he had pursued her.

So many stories, so many REAL lives and such abundance of love everywhere. This made me wonder why hatred still prevails in our society? Who taught us to hate when loving someone was so beautiful? Who made us hit someone when hugging was such an endearing act? Who created the rifts when bridging the gaps was so heart kindling?

With all of this going in my mind, my thoughts wandered to a recent event. One of my best buddy’s mom came to the US with me. She was here for a little more than 3 months. The night before she was supposed to leave for India along with my friend, I went to meet them. I was composed when I hugged my friend but when it came to hugging her mother….she started crying. I couldn’t control my tears and started first sobbing and then crying vehemently. My friend joined us and all three of us were entangled in a big hug in the kitchen sobbing our hearts out!

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That’s strangers after 3 months!

The warmth of that hug and the feeling of being loved in that kitchen that day will always be a fond memory for me. I wondered then, how easily we get affectionate and pour our hearts out into relationships. Two people who were strangers 3 months ago are crying in each other’s embrace. No blood relationship and yet it feels like one as strong as a blood relation.

Doesn’t it make you wonder when love and affection is built in our everyday lives with such strength, why does hate still rule the world? Why do we still have wars? How can people hate someone whom they don’t even know based on just their religion/color/caste?

Why hatred still prevails in our society?

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The two of us!

We recently took a trip to Tarpon Springs and it was such a rejuvenating break. After a long while we went on a trip – just the two of us and the whole experience made me revisit our relationship dynamics.

I know Sujoy since past 11+ years now, 4 years out of which are in the role of the husband! After such a long duration, relationships do tend to get monotonous or they lose their spark to some extent. Of course, our relationship is no different. We aren’t the perfect couple or it is not that we never fight. But I feel, we still have that spark intact. This trip was a reassurance of this feeling!

We still enjoy each other’s company and loved every bit of our two days trip! We had frivolous conversations during the drive time like how the world would be if teleportation finally becomes a reality and the rest of the time joking about my driving skills! 5 hours each way and we were comfortable in each other’s talks as well as the silences!

I tried to ponder on the reasons of our still alive relationship and thought of penning down a few of them here.

First and foremost, I think it is our ability to have independent lives outside our marriage!
Both of us have independent lives other than just being married to each other. Sujoy has his football and I have my writing and Toastmasters. These are kind of exclusive worlds where we enjoy without our partners. We have some exclusive friends too and do not always mingle with common friends. I think this helps to break the monotony in everyday life!

This also makes our dinners interesting as we have so many exclusive stories to share with each other at the end of the day!

99% of the times, he agrees to what I say. The rest 1 % we agree to disagree  😛
On a serious note, we are not hell bent always that both of us should come to a mutual agreement. There are days when we do not approve of each other’s views and on those days we agree to disagree. Just to quote an example, our spirituality ideas are completely different and yet we respect each other’s view and agree to disagree. He does not approve of the fasts or forgoing non veg on certain days and yet he lets me do my spirituality my way.

Family matters!
You may live with your family or you may stay away, but the extended family matters. A lot! The relationship with in laws has a huge impact on one’s married life and I cannot thank God enough for giving me such loving, caring and more importantly such open minded in laws! The importance of peace and harmony in relationships is pivotal for a successful married life.

Respect each other, come what may!
We respect each other – in individual beliefs, the decisions we take, the choices we have made and the thought we bring to the table. It is a marriage of equals!

Apart from the above, people who know us can tell you more about the leg pulling we do, the jokes on my obsessive compulsive disorder, the gyan sessions and of course our laughter 🙂

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