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Different Hugs, Different Stories

We had gone to the flea market last weekend. We meaning myself and Sujoy’s cousin and her family. Sujoy was busy watching a live soccer match at Gillette Stadium that day which I confidently told everyone that it was a El-Clasico match 😛 More details about that sometime later!

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The Women in Blue at the Flea Market!

So we reached this flea market and Sudeep da dropped us at the venue and went ahead to park his car. Paula di, Riya and I were wandering through the stalls. It was a while till Sudeep da found a parking in the always busy Boston Downtown. When he returned , Riya who is 9 years old ran towards him and hugged him! It was as if they were meeting after a long time though it was just 15 minutes. Ah! That pure moment of proximity between two individuals who really love one another and expect nothing in return! Such a simple gesture and yet so comforting.

Riya’s spontaneous hug got me thinking – How often do we hug?

It also brought back memories of some treasured hugs in my life.

The Bidai Hug

The last of the ceremonies in an Indian marriage is the bidai (farewell), where the bride’s side give a farewell to the bride. It is a very emotional moment for the bride’s side.  After the bidai, the bride and the groom leave for the groom’s place leaving behind ‘us’.

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Can you feel that overwhelming love?

I remembered mine. Almost all of us were teary eyed. During my bidai, I hugged my father so tightly that I didn’t want to let him go. It was two human beings who love each other unconditionally just being in the moment, expressing their love through actions and no words. Two human beings who share the deepest of love, care, and affection. It was such a pure unadulterated moment, only heartfelt endearment. Tears rolling from both our eyes and we didn’t care who was around us. It was just us in the moment! I still shudder from thinking about that time! #Goosebumps

The Soul Sister Hug

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Hugging! ❤

Last year during my India trip I finally met my soul sister Shweta. We had been working together virtually for almost 2 years and this was the first time I met her. We had been to Mumbai for some official work and were staying together. It was kind of my girl night out endeavour which I have done very rarely in my teens. And one of those evenings, we just let out all that was bothering us. We spoke for hours and hours pouring out the darkest of our secrets and the side of your life you don’t share on FB. And at the end of it all, we hugged. Hugged to reassure that we are there for each other. Hugged to communicate how much we love each other. Hugged to feel that soul sister connect!

My soul sister needs a hug right now and here is one I am sending out to her!

The Tree Hug

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Therapeutic!

I have hugged a tree too! It is so damn therapeutic. No judgement, no false pretenses just sacred bond. Hugging a tree connects you to mother earth too with the tree roots. Try doing it and see how you open up from within. I love hugging trees, usually the ones with giant trunks. Boston is full of huge tree trails and I never miss a chance to hug those trees on the way.

I am a hugger. Always have been. I believe a tight hug can make you forget all the shit in your life at least for 30 seconds. And with my energy work now, I can pick up on people’s energies and sense who might need a hug. I don’t always hug that person but send some healing energy their way!

A small hug made me visit all these stories yet again.

What is your hug story? How often do you hug? Do let me know in comments below 🙂

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Miracle Diaries – What I learnt from Gabrielle Bernstein and her May Cause Miracles Course

When you set on a path of listening to your heart and manifesting your true life purpose, the Universe reciprocates. I hit my low last year and it was when I realized what my true life purpose was  – “It is making people realize their full potential and the light that is inside them”. And when I started working towards it, the Universe put this course in my path – Holistic Life Coaching Course by University of Wellness. I am just nine weeks into this course and I can see my world changing already.

One of the courses included in the curriculum was May Cause Miracles by Gabrielle Bernstein. It is a 40 day guidebook which offers compelling message that anything is indeed possible with a few simple shifts  in our life. The book guides you with a morning and evening exercise each day for 40 days. And each week is dedicated to one important aspect of our life – body, relationships, finance etc.

These 40 days were raw, true and so vulnerable for me. I unfolded so many inner demons, faced deep seated fears and at the end was amazed at the humongous work I did on myself.

I wanted to share my journey so that at least one of you is inspired out there and says yes to miracles by working on yourself first –

Week One  – Witness Your Fear

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Week one was sitting down and writing all the fears you have in life. I realized when you sit down to journal, deeper fears which you don’t want to acknowledge come up to the surface. The fears which you didn’t want to face, the fears which you locked up down there afraid to let them out. Week one made me realize how my fear governs my thoughts and how I feel when I am under it’s influence. The fear of failure came up for me. A simple affirmation – “I am willing to see love instead of this” brought back the calmness.

Week Two – Self Love

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Week two made me realize the importance of self love. I am a perfectionist and I beat up myself for every small imperfection. I realized I have been my own self critic, demeaning my self worth. It also made me realize that I am not taking good care of my body.  I doubted my capabilities and was harsh on myself when I failed at something. “I am willing to let go of my self-doubt. I surrender to self love” became my mantra for an entire week. I added one thing in my routine which was all about self love and it helped tremendously. Sometimes we are too brutal on ourselves and week two taught me to be gentle and let go.

Week Three – The Body

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This was a BIGGIE for me and I wrote a separate post on how I let go of my padded bras and finally made peace with my body the way it is! You can read it here –

Why I got rid of my Padded Bras, after Clinging to them for 15 plus years

It took courage and a lot of self love to finally be free of the body image I had made for myself.

Week Four – Romance and Relationships

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Week four was revolutionary for me. Though when it came to romance, I was well sorted and was already doing what Gabby mentioned in the book. It was the ‘other’ relationships which needed healing. It was the judgement I threw on others and the way I compared myself with them. It was forgiving those who have behaved so inhumanly with my grandparents and which I never thought I will be able to do EVER in this life at least. It was about attacking others and passing condescending remarks. It was about not making or feeling myself to be special compared to others and making the foundation of oneness.

I love my Papa to the moon and back. But during this course I realized that I have had a grudge against him for taking some wrong financial decisions while we were growing up. Till date I never realized I had this inside me. This realization was something which turned my world upside down. I let go of this feeling and forgave myself for having this grudge and Papa. I set myself free.

Week Five – Financial Abundance

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Well, my sister and me grew up in financial abundance earlier and then things changed. While growing up I had this limiting belief about money which made me curtail all my wishes. I did not take the art class in school because I thought it will burden my dad financially. I went to the dentist the first time when I started earning. I carried my lack mentality with me till now. I sabotaged all the things meant for self improvement saying that I do not have enough money for this. The moment I realized about my lack mentality, my entire life came in front of my eyes – the courses I didn’t take, the training sessions I said no to and the learning opportunities I denied because I thought I could not ‘afford’ it. I removed my blocks around money the very same moment.

Week Six – Miracle Worker Mindset

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The last week was maintaining all the learnings and patting your back on the immense work I did during these 40 days! Ya, cheers to me 🙂
It also laid the foundation of continuing with this miracle mindset and let miracles happen!

It was intense and I am so self aware now of my thoughts. Whenever a fear based thought crosses my mind, I say to myself – “Love did not create this”. And see the shift within me.

I am ready to welcome the miracles in my life right now. Would you like to join me too?

Challenge Your Status Quo. Embrace Change!

A few days ago one of my good friends was home. While I was preparing tea, she just looked at the light arrangement in the kitchen. She realized that all the light was falling on the water basin and only some on my kitchen stove. Tall that she is, she swiftly rearranged my kitchen lights to illuminate the right places. My kitchen was better lit now with light all over the place and yet I wasn’t happy with it.

My husband and me were so used to the earlier light arrangement that this new and better light arrangement felt disastrous. The light arrangement seemed to suck and we were complaining and cribbing about it. But in reality, I could cook better in the nights with light focused on the stove.

When we first moved to Chicago from the sunny West Palm Beach, we were sad with the cold weather here. It was chillier. Going to the gym meant wearing 2 jackets, gloves and a scarf plus beanie. We were shivering when outside. But slowly we got used to the cold and the place. We love the high vibe energy here as compared to the laid back atmosphere in Florida. And we are glad we took this plunge.

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That is how I go to the gym here!

That is what happens with change! Even when the transformation is better for us, we still cling to the old. We don’t want to get rid of our old habits and try something new and better. The status quo so becomes our identity that we fear to leave it aside. Change is stressful. But if we embrace change in the right way, life will be so much simpler and easy.

Are you stuck at your current situation? Do you want to make a change and yet fear to do so? Trust me, take the leap. Be open to change. Start small with something manageable and attainable.

So what is it in your life that you want to change NOW?

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Feel Blessed with this 2 Minute Gratitude Exercise

I dedicated one entire year for gratitude in my ‘word of the year’ exercise. And ever since then gratitude has become an integral part of my life. In good as well as bad times, it is the thankfulness towards the good in life that has brought me out of the toughest situations.

But a lot of times, we get so carried away in our miseries and sorrow that we forget to look at the good things in life. In all the chaos, we forget to be thankful for what we do have and simply concentrate on our shortcomings.

You have to remember that even in the worst of our times, there will be something to thank about. Maybe that we have food on our table or that our loved ones are with us to help us through the bad times or that we are not at war. One thing to be thankful each day!

I started with a gratitude exercise few months back and thought of sharing the same with you all today. It is very simple, easy and best part is does not need more than 2 minutes. You don’t even need any pen or paper.

So here is the Gratitude Exercise:

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Every night when you get to your bed, just close your eyes and remember all the good things or blessings of the day. Visualize each of those blessings and at the end of it say ‘Thank you’ from the bottom of your heart. You may thank God if you believe in one or just a simple ‘Thank You’ acknowledging the good is all what is needed.

There will be days when you will be euphoric and there will be so much thank for! But there will also be days when you will feel life is in the dumps. Nevertheless, there will be something to thank for on that day.

As you regularly do this exercise, you will start appreciating your life. You will start being thankful to so many minute things which we take granted every single day. Doing this exercise while sleeping has it’s own wonderful effects. However stressful the day maybe, thinking about the good times of the day before sleeping will calm your mind and body. Your body will get relaxed and a good night’s sleep is ensured. The next day you will wake up with renewed energy 🙂

Try this exercise as you don’t have anything to lose here. It doesn’t even require any investment or props. And please don’t tell me you don’t have the time. Start this exercise and let me know how you feel after continuing the practice for a month at least!

Thank You! 🙂

3 Less than 15 Minute Meditations to Start Transforming Your Life

When I first started meditation, it was on and off with no regularity or consistency. I just did it on the spur of the moment. But then, life went astray in between and that is when I took meditation seriously and started doing it religiously.

Before I tell you the 3 Meditation Techniques, I would like to put forth a few points which will help you in your process of transformation via meditation –

  1. Choose a time for your meditation and follow that time. Mornings are better, but if you don’t have time in the morning do it in the evening or night. But keep one specific time for it. Follow this schedule.
  2. Don’t expect overnight results. Be patient. Instead of starting meditation with a bunch full of expectations, keep it simple. Do it because you feel good doing it.
  3. Thoughts will be there always. Instead of forcing them out, acknowledge the thoughts and move on. The perspective that one should have a ‘thoughtless’ meditation ruins the experience. It takes time and practice till we reach to that stage. So don’t beat up yourself if your meditation is accompanied by thoughts.
  4. Don’t give up soon. Continue the practice and you will notice the difference. Stay put 🙂

So here are the 3 Meditations which you can do within 15 minutes and witness your own transformation –

#1 Simple Counting Meditation

When I first thought of serious meditation, I began with this simple meditation technique. Ro Ferrelli who is an intuitive personal coach had mentioned about this meditation in one of her Vlogs and I thought let’s start with it. It is the simplest of all the meditations and can be timed as per your convenience – 5 minutes, 10 minutes etc. Here is a video demonstrating this meditation technique –

 

#2 Chakra Meditation

This meditation is to strengthen the 7 chakras in our body which are associated with a lot of things happening in our life. I was told I have energy blockages in one of the readings and I was fortunate enough to get in touch with Mr. Ajay Jadhav during this time frame. Mr. Ajay Jadhav is a versatile healer and much more than that as a human being. He taught me this chakra meditation and it has been 2 months now that I have been doing this meditation every single morning.

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This meditation helps you clear the energy blockages in your body, thereby strengthening the chakras. You need to take deep breaths and chant the respective beej mantra while exhaling –

  1. Laaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa for Muladhar Chakra situated at the end of your spinal cord in the back.
  2. Vaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa for Indriya Chakra situated about two inches below the navel and two inches in.
  3. Raaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa for Nabhi Chakra situated at your navel.
  4. Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa for Hriday Chakra situated at your left breast.
  5. Haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa for Kantha Chakra situated at your throat.
  6. Naaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa for Adnya Chakra situated at your third eye.
  7. Maaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa for Sahastrar Chakra situated at the very top of the head.

Give it a try and see what difference it brings in your life.

#3 Kirtan Kriya Meditation

I love this one! Started doing it since this Monday. I saw one of Ro’s live videos where she mentioned about manifesting a TEDX talk through this meditation. At that time, I did not pay much attention to it. Later again in one of her Instagram videos I heard this ‘Sa Ta Na Ma’ playing in rhythmic music. It was so enchanting. I was so attracted to that music and the words. I didn’t realize that I had started humming those words unconsciously in my mind in that rhythm ever since. It was as if this was my calling. How much ever cliched it sounds, but yes I felt the ‘calling’. And thus I got hooked to this one. It is a Kundalini Yoga meditation and takes just 11 minutes! I am in love with this mediation currently 🙂

Here is a video explaining beautifully and aptly on how to do this 11 minute meditation –

Soulful music and words, right?

I am hooked to the last two meditations currently and they occupy my mornings. I do my meditations without expectations today. I just indulge in them to simply soak in the peace.

If you need help in any of these meditation methods listed here, please feel free to get in touch with me. I will be more than happy to help 🙂

Which meditation will you try today?

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There is no Tomorrow!

Have you been wanting to do something since ages and have not been able to do it yet? It might be due to time constraint or resources crunch or you just think you are not ready for it! I do too…..most of the times. But in the past one week I have learned that, ‘There is no tomorrow’…so don’t wait to have enough money, to retire, to stabilize in your job….just go for it!

We met with a friend yesterday. Devesh is Sujoy’s football buddy and one of the supporters and motivators for me when I first started writing. It was a football marathon yesterday when he was home for dinner. But you know what struck me the most of yesterday’s meeting? It is the guy himself! This guy wakes up every day in Chicago cold at 5.30 am and goes to play squash or hits the gym. This guy takes every opportunity to travel and add experiences to his kitty. Thanksgiving weekend he went on the historic Route 66 road trip and I was awestruck. Here is a person who is living the present! Doing what he wants, putting efforts for it and being in the present! It was an eye opener for me! It was fun too catching up with him 🙂

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That’s him 🙂

A few weeks ago, I had a discovery call with Ro Ferrelli of the Feed Her Soul blog. Ro is an Intuitive Personal Coach for women only. She is amazing and you should have a look at her blog for some life changing ideas and thoughts. During the call with her I said, I have been wanting to do Kundalini Yoga since a while but haven’t come to it yet. She said, “The first thing you are going to do after hanging up the call is go and look for a Kundalini Yoga class. Then you will not feel your life is at a standstill. Get up and do it RIGHT AWAY“. That pumped me up and I went on internet and searched for the classes, looked at some self teach youtube videos and got in the zone. Just doing the research felt so good. It felt that I have accomplished something. That a new road has been opened for me. So yes, do it now because there is no tomorrow.

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Yesterday I spoke with a spiritual guide too, thanks to my childhood buddy Pooja who introduced me to him. He told me about a manifestation technique which is really simple and does not need any monetary investment or a dozen of resources. The only prerequisite is you should have faith. It was a Wednesday and I have special affinity for Thursdays being a Datta Guru Day. I first thought let’s start from tomorrow i.e. Thursday. But then I thought what if today would have been a Friday. Wouldn’t it have been foolish to waste 6 days to start the technique only because I feel Thursdays are holy. So I started right away with the manifestation technique. It felt good. I did not wait for the tomorrow!

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I am sharing the manifestation technique here as shared by the Spiritual Guru –

How to manifest a wish through the Magical Technique of “Glass of Water” 

The only prerequisite is ‘You should have faith’.

Friends we are constantly manifesting things all the time. The trouble is, if you’re constantly thinking about all the disasters and bad things that could happen, that’s the kind of negativity you will attract. The opposite experience happens when you think high-level thoughts, like “I rock!” When you think and feel “I rock,” you radiate a Positive energy of confidence; in turn, you attract great experiences and good fortune into your life.

Each thought you have informs your energy, and your energy manifests it into your experiences. Your thoughts and energy create your reality.

Here’s what you do:

1) First, take a piece of paper. Write down something you need or a wish you want to come true.
Write it as if it were an affirmation. If you’re working on a project and need creative ideas, you can write something like “I’m full of inspiration and creativity.”

2) Get a glass and fill it with clear water. Attach the paper with your affirmation or wish on it to the glass.

3) Rub your palms together to activate the energy flow in your hands, and place them on the glass of water. Be sure to use both hands.

4) Say the affirmation or wish out loud or silently. But if you use your voice, you’ll give it more power.

5) Visualize what it is you want to achieve while sending your energy towards the water in the glass.

6) Drink the water.

Do all steps 1 to 6 every morning when you wake up, and every evening before you go to sleep.

Two weeks should be enough for small wishes, but larger wishes may take up to three months or longer depending on their complexity.

Hope it helps as many out there looking for manifesting their wishes. If you need help in writing the wish into an affirmation format, buzz me and I will help you.

So what it is that you have been wanting to do since long? Go, get up and do it. Let me know how you feel after doing it! Best of Luck 🙂

 

A New Girl in the City

3 years in the towns of the glorious sunshine state Florida and I land up in a city for the very first time. The setting is different, the people are disparate and the weather is another story. For the first time, I am in a city and that too CHICAGO!!!!

Yes, I know…I know. You understand my plight of the weather combat. You maybe have already started praying for me. Some of you might just be smirking on the upside down of my so called fate 😛

But here I am to make this city my new home!

We reached Chicago the night the Chicago Cubs won the world series! Surely, we were lucky for them as they took almost a century (108 years to be precise) to win back the world series. Since then, my husband has an inside joke and a conversation starter saying, “We would have come earlier, had we known Chicago Cubs needed us to be here to win!” I think we started our journey in the new city at a good note 🙂

We were put up at TownePlace Suites Naperville  and that was our home for the first 2 weeks in Chicago. The staff around made us feel at home with the best of hospitality. The room was cozy and spacious. The kitchen was just apt and the ever smiling room cleaning staff  made my day while we stayed there! The small room almost had everything one can ask for! I wonder how do they make that happen – bringing an entire home in one room! I even made my first friend in Chicago here at the TownePlace Suites Naperville 🙂 I totally recommend it if you are visiting this side of the US!

The next day we started house hunting and this entire one side wall at Route IL-59 with these growing climbers in an array of fall colors, just brightened my day! It brought back all my memories of a wonderful trip we took last year to Smoky Mountains. Nature always surprises me! 🙂

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The city people seem to be busy with rare greetings and rare smiles! But hey, I think this is the story in every city. We had been to New York and experienced the same hustle and bustle, where the city never slept and people were in their own world. The Chicago skyline reminded me of New York too, the lights and grandeur making a spectacular view!

What brings a smile on our face are the innumerable Indian eateries all around us! Too many to even mention it here. Last weekend I had the fluffiest and softest idli EVER! On Monday, we went to this Biryani place and can you believe it had 18 varieties of biryani! Phew! We are kind of spoilt for choice here when it comes to Indian food 😉

We shifted to our new home last weekend and the fountain from Florida is replaced by red bricks and a christmas tree! The fall colors are at its maximum glory and the sunshine in the day just adds the little tinge of happiness for me! My balcony has this view now –

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It’s cold for us here and I think I am going to pick up my crochet soon! Time to finish that unfinished shrug and crochet some more beanies and scarves and gloves! 😛

The winds are chilling, the roads are uneven, the people are busy, friends are away, days are shorter, the new kitchen is small, the water fountain is gone and yet I think I am ready to embrace this city as my new home! 🙂

Isn’t it the people whom you love make a house a home?