What Kangana Ranaut’s recent interview made me think!

Yes, we love her! We love her for her guts, we love her for speaking her mind fearlessly and we love her the way she makes every fight seem so within our limits. And her recent blatant interview at Aap ki Adalat made everyone go in awe!

But along with awe, her interview brought a lot of other sentiments for me!

One of the things which has been evident in her interview and looking at all her relationships is that our men are not trained to handle such aggressive women. When I say aggressive, I don’t mean dominating women. I mean women who love themselves fiercely, women who want to do something in their life on their own and women who know what exactly they want in their life. Our patriarchal society doesn’t help men either who want to support such women. Take a look around you and see what the reality shouts out when it comes to such fierce women. How are they treated? How are their relationships? We still need to come a long way as a society to evolve and be able to accept such fierce women.

I didn’t like that she was asked the question, “Weren’t you afraid while fighting against them?” Do we ask this question to men? Why do we still glorify men who cook and women who stand and speak up. Isn’t it natural? Isn’t it the way it is supposed to be irrespective of our gender? I become a strong woman when I speak up for myself. But isn’t that a basic right for every living being? In today’s progressive world we are still asking these questions to women and it says so much about our still regressive society.

While women can be best friends, we still don’t see that sisterhood enough in our friendships. After Kangana spoke, no one has come to her aid or supported her. I don’t see other women from the bollywood fraternity being with her. To be frank, I don’t see any female friends around her. Why most of us women let go of our friendships and just revolve around our families or our careers? Why don’t we get involved in sisterhood projects. Women are the future and it won’t happen if we bicker and fight amongst ourselves. Pick up that phone and call that childhood friend. It is never late to nurture friendships and NOW is the time!

And lastly, sometimes I feel that in all this ‘feminism’ hue and cry we tend to forget the good men in the society. How much time during the interview was spent on talking about Anurag Kashyap or other men who helped Kangana? All we did was concentrate our focus on the wrongdoings of a few men. That paints a dramatically different picture and makes us think good doesn’t exist in our society anymore. But that isn’t the whole truth, right? We slammed the bad men and applauded Kangana for all that she did and forgot about the good men. We got carried away by her so called ‘bravery’ and no one thought about asking “But hey, what about the good men in your life?”

Yes, we made Kangana our ‘hero’. But in doing so we failed as a society. And that hurts. It hurts so bad.

What can we do to change this?

 

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Different Hugs, Different Stories

We had gone to the flea market last weekend. We meaning myself and Sujoy’s cousin and her family. Sujoy was busy watching a live soccer match at Gillette Stadium that day which I confidently told everyone that it was a El-Clasico match 😛 More details about that sometime later!

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The Women in Blue at the Flea Market!

So we reached this flea market and Sudeep da dropped us at the venue and went ahead to park his car. Paula di, Riya and I were wandering through the stalls. It was a while till Sudeep da found a parking in the always busy Boston Downtown. When he returned , Riya who is 9 years old ran towards him and hugged him! It was as if they were meeting after a long time though it was just 15 minutes. Ah! That pure moment of proximity between two individuals who really love one another and expect nothing in return! Such a simple gesture and yet so comforting.

Riya’s spontaneous hug got me thinking – How often do we hug?

It also brought back memories of some treasured hugs in my life.

The Bidai Hug

The last of the ceremonies in an Indian marriage is the bidai (farewell), where the bride’s side give a farewell to the bride. It is a very emotional moment for the bride’s side.  After the bidai, the bride and the groom leave for the groom’s place leaving behind ‘us’.

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Can you feel that overwhelming love?

I remembered mine. Almost all of us were teary eyed. During my bidai, I hugged my father so tightly that I didn’t want to let him go. It was two human beings who love each other unconditionally just being in the moment, expressing their love through actions and no words. Two human beings who share the deepest of love, care, and affection. It was such a pure unadulterated moment, only heartfelt endearment. Tears rolling from both our eyes and we didn’t care who was around us. It was just us in the moment! I still shudder from thinking about that time! #Goosebumps

The Soul Sister Hug

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Hugging! ❤

Last year during my India trip I finally met my soul sister Shweta. We had been working together virtually for almost 2 years and this was the first time I met her. We had been to Mumbai for some official work and were staying together. It was kind of my girl night out endeavour which I have done very rarely in my teens. And one of those evenings, we just let out all that was bothering us. We spoke for hours and hours pouring out the darkest of our secrets and the side of your life you don’t share on FB. And at the end of it all, we hugged. Hugged to reassure that we are there for each other. Hugged to communicate how much we love each other. Hugged to feel that soul sister connect!

My soul sister needs a hug right now and here is one I am sending out to her!

The Tree Hug

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Therapeutic!

I have hugged a tree too! It is so damn therapeutic. No judgement, no false pretenses just sacred bond. Hugging a tree connects you to mother earth too with the tree roots. Try doing it and see how you open up from within. I love hugging trees, usually the ones with giant trunks. Boston is full of huge tree trails and I never miss a chance to hug those trees on the way.

I am a hugger. Always have been. I believe a tight hug can make you forget all the shit in your life at least for 30 seconds. And with my energy work now, I can pick up on people’s energies and sense who might need a hug. I don’t always hug that person but send some healing energy their way!

A small hug made me visit all these stories yet again.

What is your hug story? How often do you hug? Do let me know in comments below 🙂

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Weekend Trip to Jazzy and Beachy Newport

It has been a while I haven’t written something touristy. Well every weekend of this summer in Boston, my husband and I have been trying to explore the places around. We went to Harvard, MIT last week and Glendale Falls a week before that. But I haven’t really sat down and written about it. But this weekend trip to Newport deserved a blog, so here I am writing today after a long while!

Newport is in the adjoining state of Rhode Island and it is every tourist’s dream summer place! It was a hour and a half drive for us. We first thought of visiting the Brenton Point National Park which has a sea facing. It was a little chillier for summer that day and we didn’t really go too deep here. But it was beautiful! You reach this park via the ocean drive which is 10 mile ocean spread road and it is drop dead gorgeous! This park offers majestic vistas of the humongous Atlantic Ocean as it meets Narragansett Bay.

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Next we set our foot on the Newport Cliff Walk recommended by our cousin here. Imagine walking on a narrow paved road with the sea on one side and huge castle like mansions on the other! A 3.5 mile walk trail with spectacular panoramic views, tunnels, and long winding pathways. There were huge rocks in between and my heart skipped a lot of beats while trailing that part! Maybe another blog on that 😉
Imagine how fun it would be to exercise this way amidst the grandeur of the sea!

We had to peek into one of the mansions in the vicinity! Most of these mansions were built in the 1800s and now are maintained by the Preservation Society of the Newport County. We visited the Elms and OMG! I thought some rich and powerful European king must have been staying here before! This place was a summer residence of Mr. and Mrs. Edward Julius Berwind, who stayed in Philadelphia and New York the rest of the year. Mr. Berwind had all the riches to build this one as he made his fortune in the coal industry. He wanted a French design for his house and actually had designers and furniture from Paris. The mansion was completed in 1901 and costed $1.4 million! Whoops!

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I wonder how they maintain such huge property?

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The mansion is surrounded by elaborate Classical Revival gardens displaying terraces made from marble/bronze structures and so many diverse fountains. It was like a huge park in itself!

The Elms Newport

Can you imagine the vastness of the gardens through this picture? And Sujoy isn’t even starting at the start of the garden!

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After being completely awestruck by the Elms, we headed to Thames Street for some dinner. Thames Street has a harbour and some restaurants have a beach view. I loved this town with it’s bustling joy and carefree tourist vibes. Everyone around was having a really nice time and that freeness grows on you 🙂

We had dinner here and then headed back to our home. While going back home, the sky was colored in elegant pink and blue hues and I said to myself, “This is Life”!

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Listen to what your Angels have to say!

If a year ago someone had said to me that I can talk with my angels, I would have laughed at them and shooed them off! Firstly, I did not think I had the superpowers to talk to angels and secondly I thought in order to listen to them maybe I would have to let go of all my earthly needs, be a monk and then tune in! Well, I was wrong on both the fronts!

I did an Angel Intuitive course with world famous ‘Angel Lady’ as they call her – Doreen Virtue and the ‘Tarot Master’ Radleigh Valentine and my false beliefs were shattered to pieces. Let me shatter those pieces for you too –

  1. Every one of us is assigned at least 2 guardian angels when we are born. Our race, religion, color, upbringing, nationality, beliefs etc. does not matter!
  2. All of us are born with intuition. Anyone, LITERALLY ANYONE can tune in to their or someone else’s guardian angels. You might be a monk or may think you are not the best of a human being and still YOU CAN tune in and listen to the angels.
  3. You can listen to someone’s angels from seven seas across and you don’t even have to know that person per say!

Interesting, right?

Now let me tell you how can you listen and talk to your angels. My first idea about an angel reading was that the angels will come to me and sing their message to me! Ya! I know Hollywood spoils your taste and understanding regarding angels. Well, that did not happen!

So how do the angels communicate with us? Well, they do it with the help of our intuition –

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  1. Clairvoyant – If you are a visual person, then you will see images in your eye of the mind. I am clairvoyant and I see images. For example when I was doing a health reading for Macy (name changed), I kept on seeing a knee. I asked her if she was struggling with knee pain and bingo that was correct!
  2. Clairaudience – If you are someone who resonates with music or remembers sounds, there is a high possibility that your dominant clair might be clairaudience. For example with Macy, after I saw the knee I heard the word physiotherapy in my mind. The voice will sound like your own or someone else’s. So don’t get hung up on the voice!
  3. Clairsentience – Feelings! How do you feel after you ask that question to the angels. For example – If you are asking about a love interest and then you feel anxious or sad or feel some tension in your body, the answer is really clear – NO. But if you feel butterflies in your stomach or simply happy then of course – Yes! Yes! Yes!
  4. Claircognizance – Your thoughts do all the talking. What did you think after asking that question to the angels? For example – You asked your angels whether you should take up this new job and the very first thought came up was new colleagues. You know your answer then!

You may have one or more clairs on your side! My dominant clair is clairvoyance and secondary one is clairaudience. So check which clairs you resonate with and take the leap!

Let’s do a small exercise now and see if we can connect with our angels –

Start deep breathing and concentrating on your breath. Breathe in. Breathe out. Breathe in. Breathe out. Feel the connection with the earth and your fellow earth mates with your breath. The rhythm of our breath is what connects us all. We all are one. While concentrating on your breath say out loud or in your mind, “Dear Guardian Angels, I want to communicate with you. What message do you have for me today?”

The words do not matter, what matters is your genuine intention! So ask for their guidance in your own words, just let your intention be true 🙂

Now close your eyes and check for the first image, voice, thought or feeling. You have now tuned in to your angels 🙂

If you don’t get anything right away, don’t be disheartened. It takes some practice to get there. Ask them for a sign and look out for repetitive numbers, feathers or coins!

Happy Angel Communication Dear Ones!

 

The City of the Old, but feels so New!

So we moved again! (I know, within a span of 6 months!!) God made sure we stayed in Chicago for the winter which was like the trial run before we moved to our new destination 😛

Before stretching your curiosity any further, let me tell you where we shifted! Drum rolls please….One of the oldest city of US – Boston.

We were a mixed bag of feelings before coming here. We were excited because finally we would have family around. And a little skeptical looking at the high cost of living. Nevertheless we took the plunge and landed at the Logan airport.

We headed out of the airport and my first impression of the old city wasn’t very encouraging. A lot of traffic, very narrow roads and really really old buildings. Sujoy said a very valid point, “US for me means open space and Boston seems exactly the opposite”. Boston seemed nothing like what we thought.

But we were excited to meet Paula di, Sudeep da and Riya. That was kind of the saving grace for us. Until we went out yesterday and saw the glimpses of Boston which gladdened our hearts 🙂

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Massachusetts is one of the most liberal states in the US where marijuana is legal 😉 We got a taste of its liberal freedom when we witnessed a massive LGBT pride parade in the heart of Boston Downtown. The vibrant and festive euphoria in here was contagious!

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Boston Common Park was everything you need to relax and breathe in nature’s wild beauty. It was a nice sunny day to enjoy the waters or just sit in the green grass. The flowers hummed their song and the soft breeze played along with the water making the splashes! Ah! What a wonderful experience!

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The Boston Public Library was state of art building with 4 floors and breathtaking interiors. It is a dream place for every bibliophile and art connoisseur. It is the first public library system in the US and one of the oldest ones. I was amazed at the grandeur of this building and plethora of books it possessed! Every wall in here told a story 🙂 After doing the Angel Intuitive Course, the angel paintings stirred something inside me!

The best side of Boston which we fell in love with is it’s art, history and culture. We saw live performances at the library, on the streets, outside the markets. And each of these performances were unique and scintillating. Oh Boston – The Land of Art….you just amazed me with the culture richness inside you!

And we went to the Harbour at the end. I love waters. So looking at the water stretch and the infinite sky above just made my day! Walking beside the waters, looking at the greens and blues was the perfect end to our day.

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We have stayed in Florida which is kind of a flat land and Illinois which had the art culture. But here is a place which has the hills, the sea and a taste of art – what else can I ask for?

I think I am falling in love with Boston and can’t wait to explore it’s nooks and corners and dig into the treasures it holds!

Know Who You Are!

I love animated movies! I have been to theatres alone to watch them, I so love them 🙂
Recently I watched Moana and was floored by the central theme of the movie. The story wasn’t extraordinary but what captured my attention was the message the movie gave – ‘Know Who You Are’!

Without any major spoilers, let me give you a gist of the movie. Moana loves the waters but her father keeps on telling her that they are safe on the island and that the island provides everything they need. Nevertheless she is so drawn to the water that she keeps on dreaming about sailing away.

She beautifully describes her dilemma like this –

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Moana tries her level best to be her dad’s best version of a daughter and yet the calling is persistent. Her grandma comes to her rescue and says –

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Deep in her heart Moana knows that she is not meant to be bound at the islands and keeps on asking the question to herself, “Who I really am?” 

And she does find the answer 🙂

The movie made me think! How many of us are going on with our lives being the best parents, kids, friends ignoring our true calling? How many of us are trapped in a 9-5 job which we hate because we are told the job is our island which provides everything to us and that the waters beyond are risky? How many of us have our true life purpose shelved off because of the societal conditioning? How many of us still believe that the island is what our life is meant to be?

Isn’t it time to listen to your heart? Isn’t it time to answer that inner calling? Isn’t it time to live your life fully?

I am not advocating to quit your job and start with a blank slate. I understand we have responsibilities. How about starting small? We can start giving time to our true calling during the weekends or after work. Maybe just 20 minutes a week initially. See where it goes, take a call and then go full fledged. Does this sound impossible?

The movie ends with these lines and that was when I was crying like a baby (I cry like a baby in every movie :P). These lines dig so deep in your soul –

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You know who you are!

Miracle Diaries – What I learnt from Gabrielle Bernstein and her May Cause Miracles Course

When you set on a path of listening to your heart and manifesting your true life purpose, the Universe reciprocates. I hit my low last year and it was when I realized what my true life purpose was  – “It is making people realize their full potential and the light that is inside them”. And when I started working towards it, the Universe put this course in my path – Holistic Life Coaching Course by University of Wellness. I am just nine weeks into this course and I can see my world changing already.

One of the courses included in the curriculum was May Cause Miracles by Gabrielle Bernstein. It is a 40 day guidebook which offers compelling message that anything is indeed possible with a few simple shifts  in our life. The book guides you with a morning and evening exercise each day for 40 days. And each week is dedicated to one important aspect of our life – body, relationships, finance etc.

These 40 days were raw, true and so vulnerable for me. I unfolded so many inner demons, faced deep seated fears and at the end was amazed at the humongous work I did on myself.

I wanted to share my journey so that at least one of you is inspired out there and says yes to miracles by working on yourself first –

Week One  – Witness Your Fear

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Week one was sitting down and writing all the fears you have in life. I realized when you sit down to journal, deeper fears which you don’t want to acknowledge come up to the surface. The fears which you didn’t want to face, the fears which you locked up down there afraid to let them out. Week one made me realize how my fear governs my thoughts and how I feel when I am under it’s influence. The fear of failure came up for me. A simple affirmation – “I am willing to see love instead of this” brought back the calmness.

Week Two – Self Love

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Week two made me realize the importance of self love. I am a perfectionist and I beat up myself for every small imperfection. I realized I have been my own self critic, demeaning my self worth. It also made me realize that I am not taking good care of my body.  I doubted my capabilities and was harsh on myself when I failed at something. “I am willing to let go of my self-doubt. I surrender to self love” became my mantra for an entire week. I added one thing in my routine which was all about self love and it helped tremendously. Sometimes we are too brutal on ourselves and week two taught me to be gentle and let go.

Week Three – The Body

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This was a BIGGIE for me and I wrote a separate post on how I let go of my padded bras and finally made peace with my body the way it is! You can read it here –

Why I got rid of my Padded Bras, after Clinging to them for 15 plus years

It took courage and a lot of self love to finally be free of the body image I had made for myself.

Week Four – Romance and Relationships

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Week four was revolutionary for me. Though when it came to romance, I was well sorted and was already doing what Gabby mentioned in the book. It was the ‘other’ relationships which needed healing. It was the judgement I threw on others and the way I compared myself with them. It was forgiving those who have behaved so inhumanly with my grandparents and which I never thought I will be able to do EVER in this life at least. It was about attacking others and passing condescending remarks. It was about not making or feeling myself to be special compared to others and making the foundation of oneness.

I love my Papa to the moon and back. But during this course I realized that I have had a grudge against him for taking some wrong financial decisions while we were growing up. Till date I never realized I had this inside me. This realization was something which turned my world upside down. I let go of this feeling and forgave myself for having this grudge and Papa. I set myself free.

Week Five – Financial Abundance

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Well, my sister and me grew up in financial abundance earlier and then things changed. While growing up I had this limiting belief about money which made me curtail all my wishes. I did not take the art class in school because I thought it will burden my dad financially. I went to the dentist the first time when I started earning. I carried my lack mentality with me till now. I sabotaged all the things meant for self improvement saying that I do not have enough money for this. The moment I realized about my lack mentality, my entire life came in front of my eyes – the courses I didn’t take, the training sessions I said no to and the learning opportunities I denied because I thought I could not ‘afford’ it. I removed my blocks around money the very same moment.

Week Six – Miracle Worker Mindset

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The last week was maintaining all the learnings and patting your back on the immense work I did during these 40 days! Ya, cheers to me 🙂
It also laid the foundation of continuing with this miracle mindset and let miracles happen!

It was intense and I am so self aware now of my thoughts. Whenever a fear based thought crosses my mind, I say to myself – “Love did not create this”. And see the shift within me.

I am ready to welcome the miracles in my life right now. Would you like to join me too?